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Holiday Stress

Holiday Stress

For many people, ‘Tis the Season means ‘Tis the Season to be STRESSED! It can be very stressful to navigate all of the family responsibilities along with the extra responsibilities that come along with Thanksgiving and Christmas. During the Holidays, most people will find that there are stressful events that are in our control and also some stressful events that are out of our control. There are many areas in everyday life that cause stress but here are a few areas that Stephanie and I believe are significant and can cause a high-level of stress during the Holidays. Shopping Family Dynamics Money (To hear a detailed description of these three areas, watch the November addition of the Love and Learn Series hosted by Bryan and Stephanie Vignery. You can find the video by following this link: https://vimeo.com/300650646.  To join in to the FREE Love and Learn Series the first Wednesday of

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The Vows We Make Before The Marriage Vows

The Vows We Make Before The Marriage Vows

A Vow Is A Promise Or Oath These vows may seem very similar to the vows that you exchanged on your wedding day. “I, take thee, to be my wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge thee my faith [or] pledge myself to you.” There is a lot of rich content in the typical Christian Marriage Vows including implied sacrifices that may stretch the average human to the brink of questioning what they have gotten themselves into. It can seem that we commit to these vows without really acknowledging how they actually play out during the course of marriage. This is very reminiscent of the vows that we made during our growing up years.

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What if the greatest joy was in discovering that marriage was designed to make us holy, not happy?

What if the greatest joy was in discovering that marriage was designed to make us holy, not happy?

Have you ever reached a crisis point in your marriage; hopelessly wondering if restoration was even possible or worth it? Perhaps you’ve asked yourself – what happened? Two people came together in the name of love, making a covenant before God and family, only to now be spending more time in conflict than close connection. Unfortunately, this is more of a commonality in marriages today than ever. So where can you go when you feel like you’re at odds with your spouse? …When you believe that hope has been lost? Back to foundation of why God brought you together, that’s where! I believe that God brings people together with the intention for both to be stretched and to grow into the individuals that He desires them to become. I also believe that he uses the conflict areas in our marriage as a mirror to show us ‘growth opportunities’ we can

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The Tolerance in Our World

The Tolerance in Our World

A few weeks ago I was having a conversation with a friend about tolerance in our world. I believe we have strayed far away from truth so much that we are blinded as a world by tolerance. The following Sunday after this conversation was had, I was at a service at our church and Pastor Clint throws out this quote: “We live in a society that has exalted things like tolerance, diversity, peace, and harmony so much that I fear we may value them more than TRUTH.” – Clint Sprague This started me on a quest throughout the last couple of weeks of looking for the tolerance around me. As a therapist, many of my patients are a reflection of tolerance taken too far. They moved too far from the “truth line” and are struggling with getting back on track. We are not intended to do life alone so getting some feedback

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Spouse Selection

Spouse Selection

Have you ever wondered why you selected the person that you did to be your significant other or spouse? Did you create the list of all of the qualities that you wanted and go after that person? Or did you decide that the person that found you or came across your path was just the right one without having to put a lot of effort into analyzing if it would work or not? Did you end up selecting someone just like your mom or dad without even intending to? I’m going to suggest there was more underneath the surface in your selection that what you think! I often hear women say that they married someone just like their dad and men say they married someone just like their mom. Maybe you have said that many times to yourself or maybe in the midst of a lovers spat you have used

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The Intentional Marriage

Our mission is to assist couples to plot a course through intentional choices that result in action that empowers growth in Christ.

Today’s marriages need intention more than ever before. With the divorce rate at approximately 50% percent for first marriages, 67% for second and 74% for third marriages, couples need to spend time looking at what is important in keeping marriage fresh and alive! We are committed to helping couples reach a new level of effectiveness in their marriage.

Bryan & Stephanie VigneryAuthors and Facilitators

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